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Continuing where we left off …

We took a break of soccer as it had become entirely too much. And we had days he’d be crying because he didn’t want to go to practice and he had no time to play at home, as he was always gone. A friend gave him a trampoline for his birthday (the best thing ever happening)it was designed to A. keep him active while he would figure out another physical activity and B. help him with his social skills by inviting other children to play. A. worked out pretty well, as he practically still lives on this trampoline. B. not so much, kids came over just for the trampoline, if the groups were getting bigger they’d gang up and Aidan ended up being bullied. With Summer Olympics ahead we finally got him interested in trying something new, men’s gymnastics. He did well, learned fairly quick, competed against himself in trying and trying until mastering something, he loved going and then his coach had to go in for back surgery,… That’s where this ended.

3rd Grade – we had an abundance of hope. He was assigned a teacher he already knew from KLIP (Kindergarten Literature Intervention) and had become comfortable with. The teacher was quite structured and disciplined and had a good amount of teaching experience. We kept on trying, special seats. One he liked in particular, he calls the computer chair or joystick. It was conical with a spring like core and allowed him to balance his core. (Core strength is a huge factor in ADD/ADHD. I read an article by a pediatrician following and observing a 5th grade class about this and it made a lot of sense. )His teacher was amazed by it, no more getting up out of his seat. He was strategically placed near the teacher’s desk. Most of 3rd Grade went okay, towards the end of the first half we introduced a sensory room to him, in which he could jump on a small work out trampoline, roll a heavy medicine ball, …  It seemed to make all the difference. He made progress in behavior and started to not “Hate” school as much. But we still had a long way ahead of us, lack in participation, mind wandering off, social skills and academic development catch up. He appeared to be having difficulties writing,  oral spelling tests went great, but writing was a tough one!

Before we knew it the dark clouds were back. Third Grade Guaranteed Testing came, his social issues got bigger and meaner, he felt like he had no friends, he was being teased about his lack of skill academically, children started taunting and taking his tools. Here came the tests and with that a raised general classroom anxiety. (I will never forget receiving the email and notes to parents, give them routines, feed them a wholesome breakfast and snacks, plenty of sleep, try not to schedule any doctors appointments, … All the things to help our children have a healthy and balanced opportunity to master the stress of testing. Remember, I also regularly volunteer at school. The morning of the first tests, this is how they were greeted “Third Graders and up , you only have a limited time for breakfast due to testing. You may take your breakfast and had straight for the classrooms.” Hold on what???!!! So, I as a parent get told to avoid any anxiety raising situations and all of a sudden you raise the anxiety by changing their routine, by reminding them they have these very important testing today,… This is only a little peek of things I noticed that day. So, knowing there was more to come I assured my son I wouldn’t be upset no matter what the outcome, I knew he had been working hard and as long as he would do his very best that was all I could and would ask of him. And explained to him that the outcome on how he would do was actually more important to the teachers and school than us. That helped to take some of his anxiety, until …

Something New was introduced and introduced the first time at the day of testing. Multiple Choice tests. Yes simple you might think, most healthy children may have heard or seen or at least easily understand the concept. Remember teachers and parents have been emphasizing in his handwriting and practicing. So my son starts writing complete sentences in answers, the teacher sees it, explains multiple choice testing to him and !!! Makes him erase everything he wrote so far … That was the last straw and frustration and desperation had him tight in its fists. His melt downs got more and new things came to show…

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